Women and Sexuality

Everywhere we turn there are images of vibrant, sexy women. Look at any magazine article, turn on your televisions set or check out your home page on the Internet. Women exuding sexuality everywhere? It is curious to me that in an over sexed culture, that sex would be one of the main reasons people divorce. Why is it that 35% of women, in conservative polls, say they wouldn't care if they never had sex again? And 35% of women say it is hard to get in the mood. It is easy to assume that raising children, working, and everyday stress can play a role in this. And certainly there is truth to these theories. But what if you handed a women $1000 to spend on herself, or prescribed a massage or a hot bath, would she be as hard pressed to follow through? Not likely. The secret is that they feel like it is something that is just for them, unlike sex.
The sad truth is that for many women sex feels like another thing to check off on their lengthy to do list. It is another thing they do for someone else, not experience for themselves. Somewhere along the way that sexy woman on the inside decided to take a nap- in a long, warn out, terry cloth robe. What is deeply misunderstood is that sexuality is not about looking like a model, being there only to please your partner, not having your fat roll become obvious or a "do it and get it over with" kind of job.
Sexuality is an innate part of who we are. When we do not fully engage in this part of ourselves and cut ourselves off we become imbalanced. Sex is place where our spirit can connect us to a higher place, a place where our creativity and sense of self is set free. We are set free is a place of true vulnerability where our bodies merge with another. The release of hormones creates a sense of euphoria, a feeling of closeness to our partner and even relieves stress to boot!
If you are a woman who has fallen into this rut there are a lot of things that you can do to ignite your spark again. For starters, stop buying those trashy magazines that tell you how to please him, how to keep him, how to look to keep him, what to say in bed to keep him, and suggest you need to look like a barbie for you to enjoy sex and for him to want you. Instead, focus on what makes you feel sexy. What are things you and partner enjoy? It is through understanding from a personal place about ourselves that we can go further into sexuality and total fulfillment.
Sexuality and fulfillment live in the experience of our sexual acts. To experience what we are doing we need to be conscious. Experiencing means to be alive to what everything feels like, to be fully connected to your senses.
Here are some ways to reconnect to your senses:

• When you see something with texture, touch it. Touch it with your finger tips, the front and back of your hands.
  
• When you sit down to eat, avoid biting, chewing and swallowing. Smell the food, touch it on your lips and see what that does to your senses. Put the food in your mouth and see how it feels. Let it stay in your mouth before swallowing. Swallow after savoring.
• Allow yourself to fantasize without editing or judgment. This is a wonderful way of awakening yourself and it's very private!
• Take a scented bubble bath. Feel how the water feels on your skin. Smell the aroma of the bubble bath.
  

In our world today we are overstimulated with sex without meaning. We have replaced a healthy sexual appetite for the need to work, raise kids and simply do the mundane day to day things. In my opinion, it is traumatic for the soul to be cut off from the everyday sensual experiences that have ability to ignite the passion our soul craves. When we stop seeing sex as a chore and a commodity we will be begin to create a more healthy culture views thriving sexuality as a pure and powerful place to reach new levels of fulfillment.